[CUDA] Not link CUDNN sub libs (microsoft#23656)

### Description

Do not link cuDNN sub libs.

Before:
```
 objdump -p libonnxruntime_providers_cuda.so | grep NEEDED
  NEEDED               libcublasLt.so.12
  NEEDED               libcublas.so.12
  NEEDED               libcurand.so.10
  NEEDED               libcufft.so.11
  NEEDED               libcudart.so.12
  NEEDED               libcudnn.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_adv.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_ops.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_cnn.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_graph.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_engines_runtime_compiled.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_engines_precompiled.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_heuristic.so.9
  NEEDED               libdl.so.2
  NEEDED               librt.so.1
  NEEDED               libnvrtc.so.12
  NEEDED               libpthread.so.0
  NEEDED               libstdc++.so.6
  NEEDED               libm.so.6
  NEEDED               libgcc_s.so.1
  NEEDED               libc.so.6
  NEEDED               ld-linux-x86-64.so.2
```

After:
```
$ objdump -p libonnxruntime_providers_cuda.so | grep NEEDED
  NEEDED               libcublasLt.so.12
  NEEDED               libcublas.so.12
  NEEDED               libcurand.so.10
  NEEDED               libcufft.so.11
  NEEDED               libcudart.so.12
  NEEDED               libcudnn.so.9
  NEEDED               libnvrtc.so.12
  NEEDED               libstdc++.so.6
  NEEDED               libm.so.6
  NEEDED               libgcc_s.so.1
  NEEDED               libc.so.6
  NEEDED               ld-linux-x86-64.so.2
```
### Motivation and Context

Avoid direct dependency on cuDNN sub libraries, which were introduced in
microsoft#19470.

microsoft#23643

Author: tianleiwu

cmake/external/cuDNN.cmake

@@ -67,43 +67,3 @@ target_link_libraries(
     INTERFACE
     CUDNN::cudnn
 )
-
-if(CUDNN_MAJOR_VERSION EQUAL 8)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_adv_infer)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_adv_train)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_cnn_infer)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_cnn_train)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_ops_infer)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_ops_train)
-
-    target_link_libraries(
-        CUDNN::cudnn_all
-        INTERFACE
-        CUDNN::cudnn_adv_train
-        CUDNN::cudnn_ops_train
-        CUDNN::cudnn_cnn_train
-        CUDNN::cudnn_adv_infer
-        CUDNN::cudnn_cnn_infer
-        CUDNN::cudnn_ops_infer
-    )
-elseif(CUDNN_MAJOR_VERSION EQUAL 9)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_cnn)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_adv)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_graph)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_ops)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_engines_runtime_compiled)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_engines_precompiled)
-    find_cudnn_library(cudnn_heuristic)
-
-    target_link_libraries(
-        CUDNN::cudnn_all
-        INTERFACE
-        CUDNN::cudnn_adv
-        CUDNN::cudnn_ops
-        CUDNN::cudnn_cnn
-        CUDNN::cudnn_graph
-        CUDNN::cudnn_engines_runtime_compiled
-        CUDNN::cudnn_engines_precompiled
-        CUDNN::cudnn_heuristic
-    )
-endif()

setup.py

@@ -213,19 +213,6 @@ def run(self):
                     "libcufft.so.10",
                     "libcufft.so.11",
                     "libcurand.so.10",
-                    "libcudnn_adv_infer.so.8",
-                    "libcudnn_adv_train.so.8",
-                    "libcudnn_cnn_infer.so.8",
-                    "libcudnn_cnn_train.so.8",
-                    "libcudnn_ops_infer.so.8",
-                    "libcudnn_ops_train.so.8",
-                    "libcudnn_adv.so.9",
-                    "libcudnn_cnn.so.9",
-                    "libcudnn_engines_precompiled.so.9",
-                    "libcudnn_engines_runtime_compiled.so.9",
-                    "libcudnn_graph.so.9",
-                    "libcudnn_heuristic.so.9",
-                    "libcudnn_ops.so.9",
                     "libnvJitLink.so.12",
                     "libnvrtc.so.11.2",  # A symlink to libnvrtc.so.11.8.89
                     "libnvrtc.so.12",