ram usage skyrockets while waiting for the ui and stays high after it's loaded

[deathtome1998]

I had originally tried to use stability matrix to run reforge, but after it running my ram from about 35-40% used to almost 100%. I decided to try and git install reforge normally since it's python compatibility was upgraded recently. I still run up my ram usage from 35-40% to at least 55-60% if not more while the ui loads. also, the ui takes outrageously long to load, which I had the same issue with that when I was using auto1111. I don't know why it takes the ui upwards of over 1000 seconds to load. I don't know if it's because I have my hardware acceleration turned off. which I did because I read a guide on civit.ai about ways to save vram for stable diffusion models, and that was one of the suggested methods in said guide. if anyone has a solution to the ram and/or the ui taking forever to load, I'd love to hear it.