p2p: potentially improve Iroh disconnects when bandwidth is saturated

uses the iroh patch n0-computer/iroh#3398

Author: arilotter

Cargo.lock

@@ -109,6 +109,11 @@ pretty_assertions = "1.4.1"
 serial_test = "3.2.0"
 rstest = "0.25.0"
 
+[patch.crates-io]
+iroh = { git = 'https://github.com/n0-computer/iroh.git', rev = "b08df6a04d011fa4681fb5cd44ceaa6e53e6b32f" }
+iroh-relay = { git = 'https://github.com/n0-computer/iroh.git', rev = "b08df6a04d011fa4681fb5cd44ceaa6e53e6b32f" }
+iroh-base = { git = 'https://github.com/n0-computer/iroh.git', rev = "b08df6a04d011fa4681fb5cd44ceaa6e53e6b32f" }
+
 [profile.dev]
 opt-level = 1