consider changing default autoResets*: false option

[robby-p]

Hello,

I would like to suggest considering changing the default autoReset* options, ie autoResetSortBy, to false. I think it very much goes against the nature of react, explicitly changing a property when another property is updated; a side effect. I think going with autoResetSortBy:false, would be an element of least surprise. It appears some issues have come up on this behavior. I myself spent a good deal of time debugging why exactly my tables sort state was changing when I was merely updating data in it, data not inherently relevant with the given sort criteria.

Thanks for the library and the work y'all have been doing.

Cheers!
Robby