Use @pitrou solution to abseil symbol visibility issue

Author: WillAyd

cpp/src/arrow/flight/transport/grpc/customize_grpc.h

@@ -20,6 +20,26 @@
 #include <limits>
 #include <memory>
 
+// HACK: Workaround absl::Mutex ABI incompatibility by making sure the
+// non-debug version of Abseil is included
+// (https://github.com/conda-forge/abseil-cpp-feedstock/issues/104,
+//  https://github.com/abseil/abseil-cpp/issues/1624)
+
+#if __has_include(<absl/synchronization/mutex.h>)
+
+#  ifndef NDEBUG
+#    define ARROW_NO_NDEBUG
+#    define NDEBUG
+#  endif
+
+#  include <absl/synchronization/mutex.h>
+
+#  ifdef ARROW_NO_NDEBUG
+#    undef NDEBUG
+#  endif
+
+#endif
+
 #include "arrow/flight/platform.h"
 #include "arrow/flight/type_fwd.h"
 #include "arrow/flight/visibility.h"

cpp/src/arrow/flight/transport/grpc/grpc_client.cc

@@ -28,6 +28,8 @@
 #include <unordered_map>
 #include <utility>
 
+#include "arrow/flight/transport/grpc/customize_grpc.h"
+
 #include <grpcpp/grpcpp.h>
 #include <grpcpp/support/client_callback.h>
 #if defined(GRPC_NAMESPACE_FOR_TLS_CREDENTIALS_OPTIONS)

cpp/src/arrow/flight/transport/grpc/grpc_server.cc

@@ -25,6 +25,8 @@
 #include <unordered_map>
 #include <utility>
 
+#include "arrow/flight/transport/grpc/customize_grpc.h"
+
 #include <grpcpp/grpcpp.h>
 
 #include "arrow/buffer.h"