sql: standardize error message for ON UPDATE expressions

This makes the legacy schema changer return the same error text that the
declarative one has.

Release note: None

Author: rafiss

pkg/sql/alter_table.go

@@ -1000,10 +1000,9 @@ func applyColumnMutation(
 					fk.OnUpdate != semenumpb.ForeignKeyAction_RESTRICT {
 					return pgerror.Newf(
 						pgcode.InvalidColumnDefinition,
-						"column %s(%d) cannot have both an ON UPDATE expression and a foreign"+
-							" key ON UPDATE action",
+						"column cannot specify both ON UPDATE expression and a foreign"+
+							" key ON UPDATE action for column %q",
 						col.GetName(),
-						col.GetID(),
 					)
 				}
 			}

pkg/sql/logictest/testdata/logic_test/on_update

@@ -167,7 +167,7 @@ CREATE TABLE test_fk_invalid (p STRING PRIMARY KEY, j STRING ON UPDATE 'test', C
 statement ok
 CREATE TABLE alter_fk (p STRING PRIMARY KEY, j STRING REFERENCES test_fk_base (j) ON UPDATE CASCADE)
 
-statement error pq: column j\(2\) cannot have both an ON UPDATE expression and a foreign key ON UPDATE action
+statement error cannot specify both ON UPDATE expression and a foreign key ON UPDATE action for column "j"
 ALTER TABLE alter_fk ALTER COLUMN j SET ON UPDATE 'failure'
 
 statement ok