fix: Eliminate RwLock in SequenceCounter to avoid read-write deadlock issues (#19432)

* refactor: Eliminate RwLock in SequenceCounter to avoid read-write deadlock issues

* chore: codefmt

* fix: handling `to_fetch == 0` may result in cached values being discarded.

* chore: adding a version number controls the read consistency between current and max

* test: add regression for issue #19392 high concurrency stall

* chore: codefmt

* chore: codefmt

Author: KKould