Move CPU kernels out of experimental (pytorch#13920)

Summary:
Pull Request resolved: pytorch#13920

This PR:

* Moves torchao/experimental/kernels -> torchao/csrc/cpu/torch_free_kernels.  This directory houses CPU kernels that do not depend on torch and are written with raw pointers.

* Moves torchao/experimental/ops -> torchao/csrc/cpu/shared_kernels.  This directory houses CPU kernels that are shared between ATen and ExecuTorch, and can be built for either runtime based on compile-time flags.

In addition, it:

* Fixes include paths and CMake files to make the above changes buildable.
* Adjusts setup.py

The PR is on the larger side, but most changes are not meaningful.  For review, I suggest focusing on the changes to setup.py.

X-link: pytorch/ao#2868

Test Plan: CI tests

Reviewed By: kimishpatel

Differential Revision: D80958790

Pulled By: metascroy

Author: metascroy

extension/llm/custom_ops/op_sdpa_impl.h

@@ -24,7 +24,7 @@
 #endif
 #include <executorch/extension/kernel_util/make_boxed_from_unboxed_functor.h>
 
-#include <torchao/experimental/kernels/cpu/interface/quantized_matmul.h>
+#include <torchao/csrc/cpu/torch_free_kernels/interface/quantized_matmul.h>
 
 namespace torch {
 namespace executor {

extension/llm/custom_ops/targets.bzl

@@ -14,7 +14,7 @@ def _get_quantized_sdpa_deps():
     if runtime.is_oss:
         return []
     else:
-        return ["//pytorch/ao/torchao/experimental/kernels/cpu/interface:interface"]
+        return ["//pytorch/ao/torchao/csrc/cpu/torch_free_kernels/interface:interface"]
 
 def _get_quantized_preproc_flags():
     if runtime.is_oss: