Fix big models exception caused by timm upgrade (#22442)

### Description
Today, stable diffusion stage failed due to there's a upgrade in timm.
controlnet_aux depends on it.
And its latest version limit the timm version less than 0.6.7.
So upgrading controlnet_aux can solve it.
And controlnet_aux uses opencv-python-headless, pin
opencv-python-headless to 4.8.0.74 too.


### Motivation and Context

Author: mszhanyi

onnxruntime/python/tools/transformers/models/stable_diffusion/requirements.txt

@@ -9,10 +9,11 @@ packaging
 protobuf==3.20.3
 psutil
 sympy
-controlnet_aux==0.0.7
+controlnet_aux==0.0.9
 # The following are for SDXL
 optimum==1.20.0
 safetensors
 invisible_watermark
 # newer version of opencv-python migth encounter module 'cv2.dnn' has no attribute 'DictValue' error
 opencv-python==4.8.0.74
+opencv-python-headless==4.8.0.74