chore: update node.js version to 20.11.0 MONGOSH-1648 (#1797)

Patch created by cherry-picking nodejs/node@0090c107820 onto
the v20.11.0 tag, then

  git diff HEAD~1 deps > ../mongosh/scripts/nodejs-patches/002-cares-1-25-commit-0090c107820.patch

Author: addaleax