BLD: add option to specify numpy header location #47297

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Build wheel for cp313-musllinux_x86_64	14m 54s
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Build wheel for cp313-manylinux_aarch64	9m 57s
Build wheel for cp313t-manylinux_aarch64	12m 35s
Build wheel for cp310-macosx_x86_64	15m 51s
Build wheel for cp311-macosx_x86_64	11m 14s
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Build wheel for cp313-macosx_x86_64	11m 16s
Build wheel for cp313t-macosx_x86_64	15m 57s
Build wheel for cp310-macosx_arm64	6m 24s
Build wheel for cp311-macosx_arm64	5m 58s
Build wheel for cp312-macosx_arm64	6m 14s
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Build wheel for cp313t-macosx_arm64	7m 13s
Build wheel for cp310-win_amd64	18m 12s
Build wheel for cp311-win_amd64	16m 12s
Build wheel for cp312-win_amd64	19m 1s
Build wheel for cp313-win_amd64	16m 45s
Build wheel for cp313t-win_amd64	18m 52s
Build wheel for cp312-pyodide_wasm32	1m 35s
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