BLD: add option to specify numpy header location #47316

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Build wheel for cp312-manylinux_x86_64	12m 7s
Build wheel for cp313-manylinux_x86_64	12m 7s
Build wheel for cp313t-manylinux_x86_64	14m 15s
Build wheel for cp310-musllinux_x86_64	17m 10s
Build wheel for cp311-musllinux_x86_64	16m 16s
Build wheel for cp312-musllinux_x86_64	15m 18s
Build wheel for cp313-musllinux_x86_64	15m 23s
Build wheel for cp313t-musllinux_x86_64	16m 34s
Build wheel for cp310-manylinux_aarch64	11m 31s
Build wheel for cp311-manylinux_aarch64	10m 21s
Build wheel for cp312-manylinux_aarch64	14m 46s
Build wheel for cp313-manylinux_aarch64	14m 52s
Build wheel for cp313t-manylinux_aarch64	12m 11s
Build wheel for cp310-macosx_x86_64	18m 42s
Build wheel for cp311-macosx_x86_64	17m 49s
Build wheel for cp312-macosx_x86_64	18m 13s
Build wheel for cp313-macosx_x86_64	19m 33s
Build wheel for cp313t-macosx_x86_64	25m 24s
Build wheel for cp310-macosx_arm64	8m 34s
Build wheel for cp311-macosx_arm64	13m 48s
Build wheel for cp312-macosx_arm64	8m 24s
Build wheel for cp313-macosx_arm64	9m 1s
Build wheel for cp313t-macosx_arm64	10m 14s
Build wheel for cp310-win_amd64	17m 47s
Build wheel for cp311-win_amd64	17m 14s
Build wheel for cp312-win_amd64	22m 6s
Build wheel for cp313-win_amd64	16m 55s
Build wheel for cp313t-win_amd64	19m 13s
Build wheel for cp312-pyodide_wasm32	1m 25s
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