maybe fix?

Author: lithomas1

meson.build

@@ -65,8 +65,6 @@ if cy.version().version_compare('>=3.1.0')
         subdir: 'pandas/_libs',
         install: true,
     )
-
-    add_project_arguments('--shared=pandas._libs._cyutility', language: 'cython')
 endif
 
 # Needed by pandas.test() when it looks for the pytest ini options

pandas/_libs/meson.build

@@ -148,6 +148,12 @@ if get_option('buildtype') == 'debug'
     cython_args += ['--gdb']
 endif
 
+# Use shared utility code to reduce wheel sizes
+# copied from https://github.com/scikit-learn/scikit-learn/pull/31151/files
+if cy.version().version_compare('>=3.1.0')
+    cython_args += ['--shared=pandas._libs._cyutility']
+endif
+
 foreach ext_name, ext_dict : libs_sources
     py.extension_module(
         ext_name,

pandas/_libs/tslibs/meson.build

@@ -28,6 +28,12 @@ if get_option('buildtype') == 'debug'
     cython_args += ['--gdb']
 endif
 
+# Use shared utility code to reduce wheel sizes
+# copied from https://github.com/scikit-learn/scikit-learn/pull/31151/files
+if cy.version().version_compare('>=3.1.0')
+    cython_args += ['--shared=pandas._libs._cyutility']
+endif
+
 foreach ext_name, ext_dict : tslibs_sources
     py.extension_module(
         ext_name,

pandas/_libs/window/meson.build

@@ -1,7 +1,7 @@
 py.extension_module(
     'aggregations',
     ['aggregations.pyx'],
-    cython_args: ['-X always_allow_keywords=true'],
+    cython_args: ['-X always_allow_keywords=true --shared=pandas._libs._cyutility'],
     include_directories: [inc_np, inc_pd],
     subdir: 'pandas/_libs/window',
     override_options: ['cython_language=cpp'],
@@ -11,7 +11,7 @@ py.extension_module(
 py.extension_module(
     'indexers',
     ['indexers.pyx'],
-    cython_args: ['-X always_allow_keywords=true'],
+    cython_args: ['-X always_allow_keywords=true --shared=pandas._libs._cyutility'],
     include_directories: [inc_np, inc_pd],
     subdir: 'pandas/_libs/window',
     install: true,