diff --git a/doc/source/whatsnew/v2.3.3.rst b/doc/source/whatsnew/v2.3.3.rst
index aaed7544d9975..0a029f683b6cb 100644
--- a/doc/source/whatsnew/v2.3.3.rst
+++ b/doc/source/whatsnew/v2.3.3.rst
@@ -18,6 +18,16 @@ Most changes in this release are related to :class:`StringDtype` which will
 become the default string dtype in pandas 3.0. See
 :ref:`whatsnew_230.upcoming_changes` for more details.
 
+.. _whatsnew_233.string_fixes.improvements:
+
+Improvements
+^^^^^^^^^^^^
+- Update :meth:`DataFrame.select_dtypes` to keep selecting ``str`` columns when
+  specifying ``include=["object"]`` for backwards compatibility. In a future
+  release, this will be deprecated and code for pandas 3+ should be updated to
+  do ``include=["str"]`` (:issue:`61916`)
+
+
 .. _whatsnew_233.string_fixes.bugs:
 
 Bug fixes
diff --git a/pandas/core/dtypes/cast.py b/pandas/core/dtypes/cast.py
index ccc80368b4106..a0f2d0447ea8c 100644
--- a/pandas/core/dtypes/cast.py
+++ b/pandas/core/dtypes/cast.py
@@ -865,7 +865,9 @@ def invalidate_string_dtypes(dtype_set: set[DtypeObj]) -> None:
         np.dtype("<U").type,  # type: ignore[arg-type]
     }
     if non_string_dtypes != dtype_set:
-        raise TypeError("string dtypes are not allowed, use 'object' instead")
+        raise TypeError(
+            "numpy string dtypes are not allowed, use 'str' or 'object' instead"
+        )
 
 
 def coerce_indexer_dtype(indexer, categories) -> np.ndarray:
diff --git a/pandas/core/frame.py b/pandas/core/frame.py
index f61e231736e31..414f02f41e9f0 100644
--- a/pandas/core/frame.py
+++ b/pandas/core/frame.py
@@ -5150,10 +5150,14 @@ def check_int_infer_dtype(dtypes):
         def dtype_predicate(dtype: DtypeObj, dtypes_set) -> bool:
             # GH 46870: BooleanDtype._is_numeric == True but should be excluded
             dtype = dtype if not isinstance(dtype, ArrowDtype) else dtype.numpy_dtype
-            return issubclass(dtype.type, tuple(dtypes_set)) or (
-                np.number in dtypes_set
-                and getattr(dtype, "_is_numeric", False)
-                and not is_bool_dtype(dtype)
+            return (
+                issubclass(dtype.type, tuple(dtypes_set))
+                or (
+                    np.number in dtypes_set
+                    and getattr(dtype, "_is_numeric", False)
+                    and not is_bool_dtype(dtype)
+                )
+                or (dtype.type is str and np.object_ in dtypes_set)
             )
 
         def predicate(arr: ArrayLike) -> bool:
diff --git a/pandas/tests/frame/methods/test_select_dtypes.py b/pandas/tests/frame/methods/test_select_dtypes.py
index 0354e9df3d168..d3e28d328c8fd 100644
--- a/pandas/tests/frame/methods/test_select_dtypes.py
+++ b/pandas/tests/frame/methods/test_select_dtypes.py
@@ -102,6 +102,10 @@ def test_select_dtypes_include_using_list_like(self, using_infer_string):
             ri = df.select_dtypes(include=[str])
             tm.assert_frame_equal(ri, ei)
 
+        ri = df.select_dtypes(include=["object"])
+        ei = df[["a"]]
+        tm.assert_frame_equal(ri, ei)
+
     def test_select_dtypes_exclude_using_list_like(self):
         df = DataFrame(
             {
@@ -309,17 +313,15 @@ def test_select_dtypes_not_an_attr_but_still_valid_dtype(self, using_infer_strin
         df["g"] = df.f.diff()
         assert not hasattr(np, "u8")
         r = df.select_dtypes(include=["i8", "O"], exclude=["timedelta"])
-        if using_infer_string:
-            e = df[["b"]]
-        else:
-            e = df[["a", "b"]]
+        # if using_infer_string:
+        #     TODO warn
+        e = df[["a", "b"]]
         tm.assert_frame_equal(r, e)
 
         r = df.select_dtypes(include=["i8", "O", "timedelta64[ns]"])
-        if using_infer_string:
-            e = df[["b", "g"]]
-        else:
-            e = df[["a", "b", "g"]]
+        # if using_infer_string:
+        #     TODO warn
+        e = df[["a", "b", "g"]]
         tm.assert_frame_equal(r, e)
 
     def test_select_dtypes_empty(self):