[v25.3.x] shadowing: stop replicators on topic deletion

[vbotbuildovich]

Backport #28825 to branch v25.3.x. This issue was created as a placeholder because the original PR's commit(s) could not be automatically cherry-picked.
Here are the commands to execute:

git checkout v25.3.x
git checkout -b manual-backport-28825-v25.3.x-830
git cherry-pick -x 30e9f5a99f ce9388edf9 274b9f2ea6 77c17d3afe 9263bed079

git push origin manual-backport-28825-v25.3.x-830
gh pr create \
  --title "[v25.3.x] shadowing: stop replicators on topic deletion" \
  --base "v25.3.x" \
  --label "kind/backport" \
  --head "manual-backport-28825-v25.3.x-830" \
  --draft \
  --repo "redpanda-data/redpanda" \
  --milestone "v25.3.x-next" \
  --body "Backport of PR https://github.com/redpanda-data/redpanda/pull/28825 "