GH-1633: Fix Race and Event

Resolves #1633

- don't block when self-stopping after producer is fenced
- pass the exception into wrapUp to properly set the stopped reason

**chery-pick to 2.5.x**

Author: garyrussell

spring-kafka/src/main/java/org/springframework/kafka/listener/KafkaMessageListenerContainer.java

@@ -1039,6 +1039,7 @@ public void run() {
 			this.last = System.currentTimeMillis();
 			initAssignedPartitions();
 			publishConsumerStartedEvent();
+			Throwable exitThrowable = null;
 			while (isRunning()) {
 				try {
 					pollAndInvoke();
@@ -1074,7 +1075,8 @@ public void run() {
 				}
 				catch (StopAfterFenceException e) {
 					this.logger.error(e, "Stopping container due to fencing");
-					stop();
+					stop(false);
+					exitThrowable = e;
 				}
 				catch (Error e) { // NOSONAR - rethrown
 					Runnable runnable = KafkaMessageListenerContainer.this.emergencyStop;
@@ -1089,7 +1091,7 @@ public void run() {
 					handleConsumerException(e);
 				}
 			}
-			wrapUp(null);
+			wrapUp(exitThrowable);
 		}
 
 		private void setupSeeks() {