[9.3.0] Add --incompatible_require_repo_extension_metadata

[bazel-io]

Forked from #30202

[bazel-io]

Cherry-pick was attempted but there were merge conflicts in the following file(s). Please resolve manually.

src/main/java/com/google/devtools/build/lib/bazel/BazelRepositoryModule.java

cc: @bazelbuild/triage