add recommended workflow for copier updates

docs/how-to/update-template.md

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 # How to update to the latest template structure
 
+## Overview
+
 To track changes to the upstream template, run
 
 ```
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 ```
 
 Once they are all fixed, make a commit.
+
+## Recommended Workflow
+
+The following steps are recommended to update your project, especially for infreqently updated projects:
+
+- first make sure all the tools are updated to latest versions
+    - for devcontainers
+        - `ctrl+shift+p` -> `Remote-Containers: Rebuild Without Cache and Reopen in Container`
+    - for local development
+        - `pip install -e .[dev] --force-reinstall`
+- validate your project against the latest tools
+    - `tox -p`
+- fix issues found by the above
+- commit the changes
+- update the template
+    - `copier update --trust`
+- fix any merge conflicts
+- validate that the project still works
+    - `tox -p`
+- fix any issues found by the above
+- commit the changes