Update pybind11 version used to 3.0.1

[sycloid]

Update version of pybind11 dependency used by dpctl to 3.0.1

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[intel-python-devops]

Can one of the admins verify this patch?

[coveralls]

coverage: 85.275% (-0.6%) from 85.908%
when pulling c77bdfa on sycloid:update-pybind11
into 52ab452 on IntelPython:master.

[ndgrigorian]

LGTM, thank you @sycloid

I had mistakenly been under the impression 3.9 support had been dropped by pybind11, but it turned out to be only pypy 3.9, so this is a welcome surprise and change

[ndgrigorian]

also noting that the OS compiler failure is unrelated to this change, most likely related to a recent nightly build, and will be triaged separately

[ndgrigorian]

thank you for the contribution @sycloid

this LGTM