Bump BoundaryValueDiffEqCore compats and bump OptimizaionBase to v5

[SebastianM-C]

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@ChrisRackauckas Should I separate ac914fd in another PR? As I understand we just pass through the Optimization.jl kwargs, so this should be already compatible with the new verbosity.

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Benchmark Results

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	master	9183e2f...	master / 9183e2f...
Simple Pendulum/IIP/BoundaryValueDiffEqMIRK.MIRK2()	0.599 ± 0.021 s	0.577 ± 0.028 s	1.04 ± 0.062
Simple Pendulum/IIP/BoundaryValueDiffEqMIRK.MIRK3()	12.5 ± 0.67 ms	12.3 ± 0.55 ms	1.02 ± 0.071
Simple Pendulum/IIP/BoundaryValueDiffEqMIRK.MIRK4()	2.44 ± 0.16 ms	2.38 ± 0.17 ms	1.03 ± 0.099
Simple Pendulum/IIP/BoundaryValueDiffEqMIRK.MIRK5()	2.97 ± 0.51 ms	2.9 ± 0.49 ms	1.02 ± 0.25
Simple Pendulum/IIP/BoundaryValueDiffEqMIRK.MIRK6()	1.15 ± 0.24 ms	1.14 ± 0.24 ms	1.01 ± 0.3
Simple Pendulum/IIP/MultipleShooting(10, Tsit5; grid_coarsening = false)	1.99 ± 0.7 ms	2.01 ± 0.7 ms	0.992 ± 0.49
Simple Pendulum/IIP/MultipleShooting(10, Tsit5; grid_coarsening = true)	4.1 ± 0.96 ms	4.09 ± 0.51 ms	1 ± 0.27
Simple Pendulum/IIP/MultipleShooting(100, Tsit5; grid_coarsening = false)	0.0542 ± 0.0068 s	0.0542 ± 0.006 s	0.999 ± 0.17
Simple Pendulum/IIP/MultipleShooting(100, Tsit5; grid_coarsening = true)	0.0849 ± 0.012 s	0.0859 ± 0.011 s	0.989 ± 0.19
Simple Pendulum/IIP/Shooting(Tsit5())	0.253 ± 0.083 ms	0.253 ± 0.082 ms	1 ± 0.46
Simple Pendulum/OOP/BoundaryValueDiffEqMIRK.MIRK2()	0.766 ± 0.017 s	0.736 ± 0.0098 s	1.04 ± 0.027
Simple Pendulum/OOP/BoundaryValueDiffEqMIRK.MIRK3()	15.2 ± 5.8 ms	15.3 ± 6.4 ms	0.993 ± 0.56
Simple Pendulum/OOP/BoundaryValueDiffEqMIRK.MIRK4()	2.79 ± 0.14 ms	2.79 ± 0.15 ms	1 ± 0.073
Simple Pendulum/OOP/BoundaryValueDiffEqMIRK.MIRK5()	3.44 ± 0.21 ms	3.46 ± 0.2 ms	0.994 ± 0.082
Simple Pendulum/OOP/BoundaryValueDiffEqMIRK.MIRK6()	1.34 ± 0.15 ms	1.34 ± 0.12 ms	0.998 ± 0.14
Simple Pendulum/OOP/MultipleShooting(10, Tsit5; grid_coarsening = false)	3.83 ± 3.2 ms	3.9 ± 3.3 ms	0.984 ± 1.2
Simple Pendulum/OOP/MultipleShooting(10, Tsit5; grid_coarsening = true)	7.53 ± 6.5 ms	7.78 ± 7.2 ms	0.968 ± 1.2
Simple Pendulum/OOP/MultipleShooting(100, Tsit5; grid_coarsening = false)	0.1 ± 0.0039 s	0.103 ± 0.0065 s	0.976 ± 0.072
Simple Pendulum/OOP/MultipleShooting(100, Tsit5; grid_coarsening = true)	0.155 ± 0.013 s	0.156 ± 0.011 s	0.99 ± 0.11
Simple Pendulum/OOP/Shooting(Tsit5())	0.6 ± 0.057 ms	0.599 ± 0.053 ms	1 ± 0.13
time_to_load	6.7 ± 0.064 s	6.68 ± 0.034 s	1 ± 0.011

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