branch-4.0: [opt](memory) set source content column by column when flush memtable for partial update

[sollhui]

pick #58782

What problem does this PR solve?

related issue: #58780

Under the load to 5000-columns wide table, flush memtable consume lots of memory:

Set source content column by column when flush memtable for partial update to solve this problem, the memory usage of
_append_block_with_partial_content is hardly visible in the profile after optimization.

What problem does this PR solve?

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Related PR: #xxx

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[sollhui]

run buildall

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Category	Coverage
Function Coverage	53.28% (18672/35045)
Line Coverage	39.10% (172991/442434)
Region Coverage	33.79% (133716/395724)
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