fix: check updated error for pod to be deleted

[leon-inf]

close #9833

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Codecov Report

❌ Patch coverage is 30.00000% with 7 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.
✅ Project coverage is 51.14%. Comparing base (1ea5eb0) to head (c18240f).
⚠️ Report is 2 commits behind head on main.

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
pkg/controller/instanceset/in_place_update_util.go	12.50%	6 Missing and 1 partial ⚠️

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@@            Coverage Diff             @@
##             main    #9932      +/-   ##
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+ Coverage   50.93%   51.14%   +0.21%     
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  Files         541      541              
  Lines       58291    58296       +5     
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+ Hits        29691    29816     +125     
+ Misses      25676    25552     -124     
- Partials     2924     2928       +4     

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/nopick