feat: add support for named serviceport in ApisixRoute backend

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backport https://github.com/apache/apisix-ingress-controller/pull/2553/files

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conformance test report - apisix-standalone mode

apiVersion: gateway.networking.k8s.io/v1
date: "2025-09-17T18:47:57Z"
gatewayAPIChannel: experimental
gatewayAPIVersion: v1.3.0
implementation:
  contact: null
  organization: APISIX
  project: apisix-ingress-controller
  url: https://github.com/apache/apisix-ingress-controller.git
  version: v2.0.0
kind: ConformanceReport
mode: default
profiles:
- core:
    result: partial
    skippedTests:
    - HTTPRouteHTTPSListener
    statistics:
      Failed: 0
      Passed: 32
      Skipped: 1
  name: GATEWAY-HTTP
  summary: Core tests partially succeeded with 1 test skips.

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conformance test report - apisix mode

apiVersion: gateway.networking.k8s.io/v1
date: "2025-09-17T18:48:50Z"
gatewayAPIChannel: experimental
gatewayAPIVersion: v1.3.0
implementation:
  contact: null
  organization: APISIX
  project: apisix-ingress-controller
  url: https://github.com/apache/apisix-ingress-controller.git
  version: v2.0.0
kind: ConformanceReport
mode: default
profiles:
- core:
    failedTests:
    - HTTPRouteInvalidBackendRefUnknownKind
    result: failure
    skippedTests:
    - HTTPRouteHTTPSListener
    statistics:
      Failed: 1
      Passed: 31
      Skipped: 1
  name: GATEWAY-HTTP
  summary: Core tests failed with 1 test failures.

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conformance test report

apiVersion: gateway.networking.k8s.io/v1
date: "2025-09-17T18:51:49Z"
gatewayAPIChannel: experimental
gatewayAPIVersion: v1.3.0
implementation:
  contact: null
  organization: APISIX
  project: apisix-ingress-controller
  url: https://github.com/apache/apisix-ingress-controller.git
  version: v2.0.0
kind: ConformanceReport
mode: default
profiles:
- core:
    result: partial
    skippedTests:
    - HTTPRouteHTTPSListener
    statistics:
      Failed: 0
      Passed: 32
      Skipped: 1
  name: GATEWAY-HTTP
  summary: Core tests partially succeeded with 1 test skips.