feat: support streaming load

[youngsofun]

new features:

1. FileTransferAPI add new interface

public interface FileTransferAPI {
   /**
     * Upload inputStream into the target table
     *
     * @param sql the sql with syntax `Insert into <table> [(<columns></columns>) [values (?, ...)]] from @_databend_load [file_format=(...)]`
     * @param inputStream the input stream of the file
     * @param loadMethod one of "stage" or "streaming"
     * @return num of rows loaded
     * @throws SQLException fail to load file into table
     */
    int loadStreamToTable(String sql, InputStream inputStream, long fileSize, String loadMethod) throws SQLException;
}

2. support login and capabilities
3. add docs about FileTransferAPI

ci

1. add compitibility test
2. use docker compose to start cluster for tests, like in bendsql, so it easier to test locally ( old cluster tests removed), configfile is a littel diff from bendsql is that multi host test need diff ports to know which node is used and diff discovery_addrs.
3. fix some tests with no asserts.
4. fix test about settings.
5. update server version
6. fix some warnings
7. test cluster behind nginx.

refactors:

1. unify retry logic of login/logout/heartbeat/streaming_load, not supporting multihost for now
2. move some class from client package to jdbc
3. polish pom.xml

[youngsofun]

cc @sundy-li

[youngsofun]

@sundy-li @ZhiHanZ fail of Code Quality Check is a known issue, please ignore it , the pr is ready to review

[hantmac]

LGTM