[release-1.20] Upgrade node delete timeout

[nojnhuh]

What type of PR is this?
/kind flake

What this PR does / why we need it:

Manual cherry-pick of #5706:

This PR adds a nodeDeletionTimeout to control planes nodes in workload-upgrade tests to increase the tolerance for failed node deletions.

Which issue(s) this PR fixes (optional, in fixes #<issue number>(, fixes #<issue_number>, ...) format, will close the issue(s) when PR gets merged):
Fixes #

Special notes for your reviewer:

TODOs:

• squashed commits
• includes documentation
• adds unit tests
• cherry-pick candidate

Release note:

NONE

[codecov]

Codecov Report

All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests ✅

Project coverage is 52.84%. Comparing base (064163c) to head (5780e27).
Report is 5 commits behind head on release-1.20.

Additional details and impacted files

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+ Misses            13148    13146    -2     
  Partials            817      817           

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[nojnhuh]

/retest

[nojnhuh]

/assign @willie-yao

[mboersma]

/lgtm
/approve

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Git tree hash: 7372e6690c7c589a8de46e838e5623a72d39511d

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