PYTHON-4960 More informative error message for stale primary #1792

Job	Run time
Make SDist	29s
Build wheels for manylinux_x86_64	2m 9s
Build wheels for manylinux_aarch64	11m 31s
Build wheels for manylinux_ppc64le	10m 51s
Build wheels for manylinux_s390x	11m 2s
Build wheels for manylinux_i686	2m 27s
Build wheels for win_amd6	4m 11s
Build wheels for win32	4m 10s
Build wheels for macos	3m 55s
Download Wheels	9s
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