unify return values for destroy functions

[lplewa]

fixes: #1217

Description

Checklist

• Code compiles without errors locally
• All tests pass locally
• CI workflows execute properly

• CI workflows, not executed per PR (e.g. Nightly), execute properly
• New tests added, especially if they will fail without my changes
• Added/extended example(s) to cover this functionality
• Extended the README/documentation
• All newly added source files have a license
• All newly added source files are referenced in CMake files
• Logger (with debug/info/... messages) is used
• All API changes are reflected in docs and def/map files, and are tested

[lukaszstolarczuk]

pls remember to open a draft PR in SYCL repo to update UMF usage there; can be done now or after the merge