[BUILD] Upgrade third party versions to the latest

[dbarker]

Fixes #3525

Changes

• Bump the third-party versions to the latest from install/cmake/third_party_latest
• Bump the default c++ standard in CI tests to C++17 (required by many third-party versions now).
• Add a C++14 specific maintainer test of all abiv1 code with older third-party versions that support C++14.

For significant contributions please make sure you have completed the following items:

• CHANGELOG.md updated for non-trivial changes
• Unit tests have been added
• Changes in public API reviewed

[codecov]

Codecov Report

✅ All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests.
✅ Project coverage is 90.16%. Comparing base (f81224d) to head (38414e8).
⚠️ Report is 1 commits behind head on main.

Additional details and impacted files

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##             main    #3685      +/-   ##
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- Coverage   90.16%   90.16%   -0.00%     
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  Files         223      223              
  Lines        7173     7172       -1     
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- Hits         6467     6466       -1     
  Misses        706      706              

see 1 file with indirect coverage changes

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[marcalff]

LGTM, thanks for the fix.