fix pybind issue in windows

[lanluo-nvidia]

Description

fix the broken build due to upstream pybind change:
pytorch/pytorch@cbc53b7

reference:
https://gcc.gnu.org/onlinedocs/gcc/C_002b_002b-Dialect-Options.html

Fixes # (issue)

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• Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking change (fix or feature that would cause existing functionality to not work as expected)
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[narendasan]

LGTM