rebase(transformers): align modeling wrappers, cache_utils and other changes to v5.3.0 and restore PyTorch/ORT parity#876

vbaddi wants to merge 4 commits intoquic:mainquic/efficient-transformers:mainfrom

vbaddi:test/rebase-transformersvbaddi/efficient-transformers:test/rebase-transformersCopy head branch name to clipboard