fix: Fix upgrade path 3.3.x -> 4.0.x

[sbernauer]

Description

Fixes #538

This PR also adds an upgrade test to make sure the functionality will be kept going forward.

Co-developed with @xeniape

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# Author
- [x] Changes are OpenShift compatible
- [x] CRD changes approved
- [x] CRD documentation for all fields, following the [style guide](https://docs.stackable.tech/home/nightly/contributor/docs/style-guide).
- [x] Helm chart can be installed and deployed operator works
- [x] Integration tests passed (for non trivial changes)
- [x] Changes need to be "offline" compatible

# Reviewer
- [ ] Code contains useful comments
- [ ] Code contains useful logging statements
- [ ] (Integration-)Test cases added
- [ ] Documentation added or updated. Follows the [style guide](https://docs.stackable.tech/home/nightly/contributor/docs/style-guide).
- [ ] Changelog updated
- [ ] Cargo.toml only contains references to git tags (not specific commits or branches)

# Acceptance
- [ ] Feature Tracker has been updated
- [ ] Proper release label has been added
- [ ] [Roadmap](https://github.com/orgs/stackabletech/projects/25/views/1) has been updated

[NickLarsenNZ]

LGTM

[NickLarsenNZ]

Btw, you can add a Co-authered-by trailer to the commit to give @xeniape attribution (not sure if Co-developed has any significance in github if that's what you were going for).

[sbernauer]

Started https://testing.stackable.tech/view/02%20Operator%20Tests%20(custom)/job/hive-operator-it-custom/6

[NickLarsenNZ]

LGTM

[sbernauer]

https://testing.stackable.tech/view/02%20Operator%20Tests%20(custom)/job/hive-operator-it-custom/7/

[NickLarsenNZ]

LGTM, thanks for the upgrade test

[sbernauer]

All tests passed