feat: Support configuring JVM arguments

[sbernauer]

Description

Part of stackabletech/issues#584

Definition of Done Checklist

• Not all of these items are applicable to all PRs, the author should update this template to only leave the boxes in that are relevant
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# Author
- [ ] Changes are OpenShift compatible
- [ ] CRD changes approved
- [ ] CRD documentation for all fields, following the [style guide](https://docs.stackable.tech/home/nightly/contributor/docs/style-guide).
- [ ] Helm chart can be installed and deployed operator works
- [ ] Integration tests passed (for non trivial changes)
- [ ] Changes need to be "offline" compatible

# Reviewer
- [ ] Code contains useful comments
- [ ] Code contains useful logging statements
- [ ] (Integration-)Test cases added
- [ ] Documentation added or updated. Follows the [style guide](https://docs.stackable.tech/home/nightly/contributor/docs/style-guide).
- [ ] Changelog updated
- [ ] Cargo.toml only contains references to git tags (not specific commits or branches)

# Acceptance
- [ ] Feature Tracker has been updated
- [ ] Proper release label has been added
- [ ] [Roadmap](https://github.com/orgs/stackabletech/projects/25/views/1) has been updated

[sbernauer]

Started https://testing.stackable.tech/view/02%20Operator%20Tests%20(custom)/job/spark-k8s-operator-it-custom/14/

[sbernauer]

Tests passed

[maltesander]

LGTM, will test a little tomorrow!

[maltesander]

LGTM!

[maltesander]

LGTM!