Display non-existing nested columns in error message

[camposandro]

When selecting columns for a NestedFrame, ensure that the error message only lists non-existent nested columns specified by the user. Previously, all specified nested columns would appear. Closes astronomy-commons/lsdb#1017.

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Before [539d2f3]	After [16ebe61]	Ratio	Benchmark (Parameter)
failed	failed	n/a	benchmarks.ReadFewColumnsS3.peakmem_run
failed	failed	n/a	benchmarks.ReadFewColumnsS3.time_run
66.6±1ms	67.8±0.9ms	1.02	benchmarks.CountNestedBy.time_run
183M	186M	1.02	benchmarks.ReadFewColumnsHTTPS.peakmem_run
48.8±2ms	49.5±0.04ms	1.01	benchmarks.ReassignHalfOfNestedSeries.time_run
137M	137M	1.00	benchmarks.CountNestedBy.peakmem_run
105M	105M	1.00	benchmarks.NestedFrameAddNested.peakmem_run
110M	110M	1.00	benchmarks.NestedFrameQuery.peakmem_run
109M	109M	1.00	benchmarks.NestedFrameReduce.peakmem_run
263M	263M	1.00	benchmarks.ReassignHalfOfNestedSeries.peakmem_run

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[dougbrn]

Looks great, reading through #390 I'm not 100% sure if this addresses it as well or not. If you think it closes it feel free to add it, otherwise @hombit can probably check sometime in the future to see if it's been addressed (not blocking this PR)

[camposandro]

Thanks for bringing it up, @dougbrn!

I'm not totally sure either - for some reason, I'm even interpreting it as the opposite of what I implemented. I will wait for @hombit's input just to be sure these two issues do not conflict.

[hombit]

@camposandro @dougbrn that's good with me, let's solve #390 separately in the future (maybe just on the read_parquet end)