Revert to preferring IP addresses for Node listeners by default

[nightkr]

Description

Supersedes #243. Implementation side of stackabletech/operator-rs#903.

• Update https://github.com/stackabletech/kafka-operator/blob/87150b66d76b534b2859b9a58eb4f075f9ec7b31/docs/modules/kafka/examples/getting_started/kafka.yaml after the merge

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# Author
- [ ] Changes are OpenShift compatible
- [x] CRD changes approved
- [x] CRD documentation for all fields, following the [style guide](https://docs.stackable.tech/home/nightly/contributor/docs/style-guide).
- [x] Helm chart can be installed and deployed operator works
- [x] Integration tests passed (for non trivial changes)
- [x] Changes need to be "offline" compatible

# Reviewer
- [ ] Code contains useful comments
- [ ] Code contains useful logging statements
- [ ] (Integration-)Test cases added
- [x] Documentation added or updated. Follows the [style guide](https://docs.stackable.tech/home/nightly/contributor/docs/style-guide).
- [x] Changelog updated
- [ ] Cargo.toml only contains references to git tags (not specific commits or branches)

# Acceptance
- [ ] Feature Tracker has been updated
- [ ] Proper release label has been added
- [ ] [Roadmap](https://github.com/orgs/stackabletech/projects/25/views/1) has been updated

[sbernauer]

Code LGTM. Can you please also update the docs?

[nightkr]

e1ff5b1

[sbernauer]

Thanks!

[adwk67]

Running on Openshift currently fails with:
failed to apply patch: unable to patch resource "listener-nginx-long-name-approaching-k8s-limits-0": ApiError: services "listener-nginx-long-name-approaching-k8s-limits-0" is forbidden: cannot set blockOwnerDeletion if an ownerReference refers to a resource you can't set finalizers on: , <nil>: Forbidden

[adwk67]

Fixed Clusterrole (this will be covered in a separate PR, so that this one can be merged):

apiVersion: rbac.authorization.k8s.io/v1
kind: ClusterRole
...
rules:
...
  resources:
  - persistentvolumes
  verbs:
  - get
  - list
  - watch
  - patch
  - create
  - delete
- apiGroups:
  - ""
  resources:
  - nodes
  - persistentvolumes
  - persistentvolumes/finalizers
  - persistentvolumeclaims
  - endpoints
  verbs:
  - create
  - update
  - patch
  - get
  - list
  - watch
...
- apiGroups:
  - listeners.stackable.tech
  resources:
  - listeners
  - listeners/finalizers
  - listeners/status
  - podlisteners
  verbs:
  - patch
  - create
  - delete
  - update
...

[adwk67]

approved! will update the clusterrole for OS-compatability separately

[sbernauer]

Many thanks, happy to review!