Fix dtype selective build check in elementwise_util

[swolchok]

I think I got this wrong in #11975 -- the compute_dtype is the one type that is NOT related to selective build.

[swolchok]

Stack from ghstack (oldest at bottom):

• WIP: outline mixed dtype kernel #12219
• Remove unused compute_fun argument to validate_elementwise_fn_inputs #12217
• -> Fix dtype selective build check in elementwise_util #12183

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[swolchok]

• Kimish and Lucy because we just discussed this in person

[kimishpatel]

use of should_include_kernel_dtype is behind a macro, should we not continue with that convention?

[swolchok]

ET_INTERNAL_CHECK_SELECTIVE_BUILD depends implicitly on et_switch_name being defined, which doesn't make sense here, and should_include_kernel_dtype is a perfectly good constexpr function so I don't see why we shouldn't call it

[swolchok]

unittest-editable failure looks like a known flake. merging.