GEODE-10459: upgrade testcontainers from 1.17.6 to 1.21.3

[raboof]

The acceptance tests appear to fail because docker-compose does not exist. Likely the GHA machines have moved to the new docker compose convention. This PR attempts upgrading testcontainers, as testcontainers is what's starting docker compose, and newer versions indeed do it through the docker executable.

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[raboof]

hmm this is strange:

SingleServerSNIAcceptanceTest > initializationError FAILED
    org.testcontainers.containers.ContainerLaunchException: Local Docker Compose not found. Is docker-compose on the PATH?
        at org.testcontainers.containers.LocalDockerCompose.invoke(LocalDockerCompose.java:61)
        at org.testcontainers.containers.ComposeDelegate.runWithCompose(ComposeDelegate.java:241)
        at org.testcontainers.containers.ComposeDelegate.createServices(ComposeDelegate.java:163)
        at org.testcontainers.containers.DockerComposeContainer.start(DockerComposeContainer.java:139)
        at org.apache.geode.rules.DockerComposeRule$1.evaluate(DockerComposeRule.java:102)

[harmoncoffee]

I see you got the acceptance tests working with this change thats great!